Wednesday, October 6, 2021
S.O.A.P. | Wednesday Bible Study
Thursday, September 30, 2021
Appreciation | Thankful Thursday
Sometimes the ones we love the most do not know how we truly feel about them until we tell them. It seems simple enough. Saying things like please, thank you, and you're welcome are good manners. Telling someone you love them is kind and can be reassuring. But, lately it has occurred to me that I do not tell my husband how important he is to me and our family. This week I found out how powerful verbally expressing my appreciation for my husband is.
Paul is my best friend. He is the strength in our marriage. He has muscles and he can lift heavy things. He knows how to fix almost anything. He thinks through things much quicker than I and he has really good ideas. He gets up very early every single morning Monday through Friday and goes to work. He does not ever complain about having to work so hard and drive so far to and from work (1 hour and 15 minutes one way). He is steady, dependable, reliable, and that makes me comfortable. Being a Christian husband is far harder than being a husband in general. He has the responsibility of leading our family in a way that pleases God. I rely on Paul to lead our family. He appreciates my feedback and we discuss things. He is no dictator, but he truly has the final say. In our marriage it is God first, then Paul, then me, and then our children. That is not a popular chain of command but God created it and you know what? It actually works! I tried the other way and it goes left real quick! Not a fun way to live.
Since moving back to Indiana, we have had a lot of fun times, happy times, joyful times. We made new friends, found our HOME church, and witnessed the power of God move so many times. It is incredible the amount of spiritual growth we have all encountered in this season of our life. We have also had a lot of disappointments, grief over loved ones who passed on. We have had people let us down, turn their backs on us, and hurt us in ways they could never know. This can take a toll on us, especially my husband. He is often quiet about things he feels. He hates to see his wife or children hurting and especially when that pain came from another person. So he does his best to keep pointing us back to Jesus and I will be honest here, he has his work cut out for him on this one. Sometimes I just want to be like Peter when he cut off the soldier's ear in an effort to protect Jesus. Paul, like Jesus did in the garden, reminds me we do not war against flesh and blood. He is right.
We had hoped to have our own home by now. That has been the single one thing that we have battled the most. Trusting God's timing when our own calendar flips month after month and nothing happens that we can see, it is frustrating. Stress at work for Kadesia and for Paul and for myself can really add to that frustration. Sickness that won't leave Kadesia's body since June can literally take parents to the brink when we have done all the things and she still has fevers that are above 103 and a heart rate that scares physicians! This is real life and these things can take a toll. And who do I share these feelings with? I tell my husband. I need him. I need his prayers. I need him to hold me and reassure me that someday soon our lives will not feel so out of control and awful! But who holds Paul?
Of course we know God holds us all in the palm of His hands and that will never change. Remember the scripture in Romans 8:35-39 that reads, "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For Thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, no powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
But in the natural, when we need a hug, or an outlet, a safe place to vent and yell and cry, where can Paul go? If he has to be the pillar in our family: strong, steadfast, and immovable, where can he go? He goes to God first and then he comes to me. He lets me knows what areas he feels weak in. He knows it's a safe place to tell me his insecurities. And it is my duty not only as his wife, but as a Christian, a servant of Jesus, to build my husband up. I am to encourage him and uplift him. I am to pray for him and empower him to continue to lead well.
Ladies, please, make that safe place available to your husbands. I have not always done this and there were times I did not do it well. But do not stop trying to be the help meet you were created to be for that man in your life. Instead of listening to other women complain about their husbands, we must honor ours. Instead of finding fault with the spiritual leaders of our homes, we need to show them respect and love and appreciation. The world will not do this for them. Other women can stroke their ego, but they will not do this for them. It is up to us, to be the women of God we are called to be. God handpicked us for these men to be the helper and friend and companion they need. Let us make a safe haven of rest for our husbands because they need it, too.
I have seen a woman spend a great deal of time on an elaborate meal for their family and then criticize everyone and everything the entire time. It was so bad at one point, my husband and I just looked at one another and exchanged disappointed glances. The atmosphere was uncomfortable to say the least. She continued to point out her husband's flaws and shortcomings and he was getting embarrassed and upset. We need to honor our husbands and lift them up every chance we get.
You may think, "Bridgett you don't know my husband. You don't know his bad habits and his attitude. How can I honor a man like that?" I understand it can be a challenge. I truly do. But, we are to love others more than ourselves. Pray for your husband to see where he is not lining up to God and ask God to work in his heart. But don't say amen and go on with your day. While you are having a conversation with God, ask Him to change your heart, too. Ask Him to show you how to be more loving, more kind, more respectful. Maybe the moment he walks through the door is not the best time to start unloading about your day. Ask how his day was. Talk to him and listen. Take the time to be present in the moment.
Friends we have to stop looking at everything through the lens of "How Does This Make Me Feel" and we need to prefer others above ourselves. Look to the needs of others. Read the book of Romans, chapter 12 and see how we should treat one another. We should never treat total strangers kinder than we do our own flesh and blood. We are the children of God and He told us to love one another and that is how the world will know we belong to Him.
1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8a (4)Charity [love] suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, (5)Doth not behave itself unseemly [rudely], seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; (6)Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; (7)Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. (8a) Charity [love] never faileth:
1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8a {ESV} (4)Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant (5)or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; (6)it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. (7)Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (8a)Love never fails.
The Bible is very clear what love is. We know God is love and these verses in 1 Corinthians tell us the character of God's love. It is the same way He wants us to operate in love when we engage with others including our spouses. So let's take a quiz. How patient and kind are we? Do we envy other women who we think have better husbands? Are we bragging on ourselves and become arrogant and prideful? Are we rude? Come on now ladies. You know some of this hurts! Do we insist on our own way? Why do we just assume our way is better? And even if his way is not better it can still be good. If it is not good, then can we please give grace and mercy for times our husbands fail? We all need room to make mistakes. It is how we become better. Are we irritable or resentful? A friend of mine would complain about how much work she had to do around the house but she did not want to confront the issue of no one helping. She had set the standard so high that her kids said, "If we did do something to help, it would not be right and she would just do it over anyway." We have to let others help us or we have no reason to resent that they are not helping. What do we rejoice in? Are we encouraging bad behaviors or are we rejoicing in the right choices they make? Or do we ever tell them how proud we are that they are making good choices for the family? We cannot tell them they are wrong and never praise them for being right. Would we want to be talked to like that? Love endures all things and never fails. God loves us like this and we want our husbands to love us like this. So, let's make an effort to love them back like this.
I have never met a happily married couple who said, "Our marriage is awesome and it takes 0% from us!" Paul and I have been married for 21 years and it's tough sometimes. It is hard! Life is hard and so is marriage. There is more responsibility, more accountability, more to navigate and work through, but I love Paul more now than I did 21 years ago. I love Paul more now when I see him on his face at the altar at church asking God how he can be more like Him! I love Paul more when I see him pray about something before he moves on it. It was not always like that. He is more in tune with God now and that translates to everything he does.
I thank God for my husband. I am so thankful that Paul and I made it when others said it would never last. I am thankful that God gave me a wonderful husband and I tell him a lot, but not as much as I should. What are you thankful for this THANKFUL THURSDAY?
God bless you!
~Bridgett Owens
Friday, September 24, 2021
How To Act In The Presence Of Jesus | Fuel For The Weekend
MATTHEW 14:24-27 (24)But the ship was now in the midst of the sea, tossed with waves: for the wind was contrary. (25)And in the fourth watch of the night Jesus went unto them, walking on the sea. (26)And when the disciples saw Him walking on the sea, they were troubled, saying, It is a spirit; and they cried out for fear. (27)But straightway Jesus spake unto them, saying, Be of good cheer; it is I; be not afraid.
These men are in a ship in the middle of the sea. It is in the night and the waves are crashing against their vessel. The wind is whipping up the waves and their ship starts rocking and they are in a situation they feel is out of their control. We have all been there. We get the call with the unexpected news on the other end of the line. We hear the doctor's report and we never saw it coming. We, like the disciples, are in a dark situation and we feel helpless to dictate the outcome. What do we do?
It is dark. It is in the middle of the night and the men see something walking on the water. They thought they saw a ghost and they began to cry out in fear. Their experience just went from bad to worse. They do not know what is coming next.
Immediately Jesus reassures them. "It is I; be not afraid." Jesus did not leave them in the dark, fearful circumstances. He immediately calmed their fears. He announced His presence and we see that it so motivated Peter that he asks Jesus to let him walk on the water too. And so Jesus lets Him. And then like all of us do, Peter took his eyes off Jesus and started looking at his circumstances. He noticed the violent wind, he felt the waves chopping against his legs, and he cried out in fear, "Lord, save me!"
We can get upset with Peter for doing that, but it is a natural thing. Jesus tells us He is with us and we feel better and we even get excited about doing something supernatural, or miraculous, for God, and then we start looking at our situation again, and we begin to sink like Peter did. But, look how Jesus responds. He IMMEDIATELY stretched forth His hand and caught Him!
Let that sink in! He immediately stretches out His nail scarred hands and catches us! He does not let us go under. He does not let us sink. He does not tell us we are on our own. He catches us! He asks why did you doubt?
Why do we doubt? It truly is that in some situations we simply lack the faith that God will do what He said He will do. The good news is that we can say, "Lord, I believe, but help my unbelief." That was what the man said to Jesus in Mark 9:24. He was the father of a child with a dumb and deaf spirit. Jesus will give us help to believe! He continues to work on our behalf all the time. Let's not give up hope when HOPE is what Jesus gives!
The beautiful end of this story is in verse 32, "And when they were come into the ship, the wind ceased." Jesus brought Peter back to the ship and the wind stopped. The winds obey Jesus. The trials will rock us off course, leave us turned upside down and inside out, but when Jesus puts us back where we belong, the storm stops. Sometimes He calms the storm, others times He calms His children.
Think on these things this weekend, friends. This is Fuel For The Weekend. I hope something I shared today has given you strength for your journey and light for your way. God bless you!
~Bridgett Owens
Thursday, September 23, 2021
Thankful For The Unexpected | Thankful Thursday
PSALM 127:3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is His reward.
PSALM 127:4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
1 SAMUEL 1:27 For this child I prayed; and the LORD hath given me my petition which I asked of Him:
I love both of my children and so thankful to be their momma. I am so proud to be Paul's wife and it was literally the best anniversary ever!
God bless you!
~Bridgett Owens
Wednesday, September 22, 2021
Perfect Love Casts Out Fear | Wednesday Bible Study
Hello friends! It has been a while since I last posted. I have had a lot of health issues and I continue to battle them today. I am trusting God and I know He is my healer, but for those of you who live with chronic pain you know that some days you just try to make it through the day and that's the best you can do. So, God put this topic on my heart today: Perfect love casts out fear! This is straight from the Word of God and I want to talk about that in light of situations going on in our world today.
Fear is ugly. Fear is a tactic from the enemy to keep us stagnant, to prevent us from doing anything for God, and to keep us bound. When we live in a place of fear we get anxious, we get depressed, we lose hope and we are not effective workers in God's Kingdom. So the enemy loves to use fear.
The news is full of scary stories: a young family went to a park and was later found dead; a young girl engaged to be married, found dead after being away on a trip with her fiance; the violence in Afghanistan; reports of increased cases of the Vid and the division of Camp Poke and Camp Nope. There are stressful situations all around us and the enemy is working so hard to get us frustrated and upset but God has a plan and today we are getting our hope back, our joy back, and our freedom back!
1 JOHN 4:12-19 (12)No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and His love is perfected in us. (13)Hereby know we that we dwell in Him, and He in us, because He hath given us of His Spirit. (14)And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world. (15)Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God. (16)And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. (17)Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as He is, so are we in this world. (18)There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. (19)We love Him because He first loved us.
Take the time today to read 1 John chapter four. It is a wonderful chapter that will give you more insight into what we are talking about today. I want to go over today's passage with you and give you some hope.
God is love. It is not just what He does, it is who He is. He is love. There is no love apart from God. So when we recognize Jesus is the Son of God and we believe in Him, we are saved. As Christians, we are in fellowship with Jesus. He lives in our heart and He placed His Holy Spirit inside of us. We have power and authority that God gave us through Jesus to overcome all the trials of this life. God is PERFECT LOVE.
It is hard to understand perfect love because as humans we love our parents, our children, our friends, our spouses, etc. but we do not love perfectly. We make mistakes. We get offended. We do not love perfectly. God's love is perfect. There is no flaw in it. There are no mistakes. He loves us unconditionally as a sinner as well as a child of God. He loved us first. His great love covered the multitude of sins we have. So how can we experience perfect love?
We need to have quiet time alone with God. We need to hang a do not disturb sign on the door and spend some time with Him. We cannot have a meaningful relationship with someone if we only use them for what we need and want and never spend time in their presence, getting to know them. There are so many facets of God's character. We need to spend quality time with Him to know Him and learn about Him. Remember Matthew 11:28-30 where Jesus offers us that sweet rest for our weary souls? He tells us to learn who He is. Get to know Him.
When we are in the presence of God fear cannot stay. It leaves! It cannot hold us down or hold us back. We are free in the presence of God. We must draw near to Him. Instead of turning on the news to get an update, slip away to a place you can hear from God and see what His view is on the things in the world. Instead of stressing over things you cannot control, tune in to the Word of God and read the Good News! We know there will be trouble in the world because Jesus told us there would be. He said there would be diseases and wars and rumors of wars. He told us that the hearts of many would grow cold; that people would be lovers of themselves and compassion would diminish. Friends, we know that these things will happen but remember what Jesus said?
JOHN 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in Me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
Fear and peace cannot share the same space. If your heart is full of fear, doubt, dread, and stress then you are not living in peace. There is peace that comes from God that the world cannot give. This peace is sweet and it is beyond comprehension. In the middle of the storm, when the waves are crashing against you, and you feel like you are going under for the last time, when you turn your eyes on Jesus you will see His extended hand and He will rescue you. He did not leave us without hope. He is coming back. Things are bleak right now. Things are discouraging right now, but we do not hope for things in this world. We put our hope in Jesus Christ. He loves us. He loves with a perfect love and He is going to make all the crooked paths straight. He works to untie the knots and tangles in our situations. He heals and restores. He mends the brokenhearted. Let's get our hopes up again. Turn to the Master and let Him lead you out of the land of the fearful and into the land of the free. God has you in the palm of His hand and He will never, NEVER let you go!
I hope that something I have shared today has been strength for your journey and light for your way. God bless you!
~Bridgett Owens
Friday, August 6, 2021
Construction Zones | Fuel For The Weekend
Have you ever noticed that there are lots of signs warning of upcoming work sites? Before you see any men or women at work, often there are clear signs with words or pictures to warn us. We may have to switch lanes, decrease speed, and sometimes our clear path becomes bumpy and uneven. It slows us down or maybe sets us back depending on the circumstances.
I go through two worksites every time I go to work. I have learned the patterns and it is much better than it used to be but I honestly groaned inside when I saw the bright orange barrels and long line of single lane traffic.
There is a sign that gets my attention though. It simply says EXIT IS OPEN. It reminds me of times in life when we are in a situation we don’t like and it could be out of our control. We are in the worksite of life. But the Bible tells us there is an exit always open.
1 Corinthians 10:13 reads, “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, Who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
This verse lets us know hard times do come. We are not exempt from pain or suffering because we belong to Christ. Rather, God is faithful and He allows trials of our faith to strengthen us and help us grow and develop skills to be victorious in every area of our lives.
Sometimes we get the wind knocked out of us. The enemy attacks us and we didn’t see it coming. Hold on to God. He is faithful. He will strengthen you to endure. He also has exits that are open. As Holy Spirit leads us we will make it through.
2 Timothy 2:3 tells us to “endure hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. We are in a war in the spiritual realm. Your soul is so precious that God sent Jesus to purchase it at the very high cost of His own life! His pure blood paid it all. Satan does not want you but he definitely does not want God to have you so he tries to destroy you and torment you. He wants you eternally separated from Christ.
If you are in a construction zone in life, friend do not give up. The exit is open. Run to Jesus and He will carry you through. He is capable of doing great things for you if you allow Him to. The choice is yours. You are the one driving. You can trust Him to navigate you or you have the option to try to figure it all out on your own. All the signs point you to Jesus and the finished work of the cross.
Hope whatever you choose to do this weekend, you will be safe and happy and refreshed. Put Jesus first and everything else lines up. May something I shared today be strength for your journey and light for your way. God bless you!
~Bridgett Owens
Thursday, August 5, 2021
Siblings Pray Together Stay Together | Thankful Thursday
Joshua 6:15, 16, 20, 27 (15)And it came to pass on the seventh day, that they rose early about the dawning of the day, and compassed the city after the same manner seven times: only on that day they compassed the city seven times. (16)And it to came to pass on the seventh time, when the priests blew with the trumpets, Joshua said unto the people, Shout; for the LORD hath given you the city. (20)So the people shouted when the priests blew with the trumpets: and it came to pass, when the people heard the sound of the trumpet, and the people shouted with a great shout, that the wall fell down flat, so that the people went up into the city, every man straight before him, and they took the city. (27)So the LORD was with Joshua; and his fame was noised throughout all the country.
Gideon and three companies of men shouted a praise and they won the victory without fighting!
Judges 7:19-21 (19)So Gideon, and the hundred men that were with him, came unto the outside of the camp in the beginning of the middle watch; and they had but newly set the watch: and they blew their trumpets, and brake the pitchers that were in their hands. (20)And the three companies blew the trumpets, and brake the pitchers, and held the lamps in their left hands, and the trumpets in their right hands to blow withal: and they cried, The sword of the LORD, and of Gideon. (21)And they stood every man in his place round about the camp; and all the host ran, and cried, and fled.
Paul and Silas praised their way out of the prison cell and shackles!
Acts 16:24-26 (24)Who, having received such a charge, thrust them into the inner prison, and made their feet fast in their stocks. (25)And at midnight Paul and Silas prayed, and sang praises unto God: and the prisoners heard them. (26)And suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison were shaken: and immediately all the doors were opened, and every one's bands were loosed.
I don't know what situation you may find yourself in today. You could be looking for a victory and all you feel is defeated. You may look around and feel outnumbered and helpless, but God in heaven is capable to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. (Ephesians 3:20). God is on our side. He always wins! He is giving victory to every one of His children. If you are born again, that means you are victorious through Christ Jesus. His blood paid it all!
If you are not born again, you can ask Jesus to save you. Confess you are a sinner and in need of a Savior. Confess that you believe Jesus is the Son of God and died to save you. Ask Him to be the Lord of your life and watch Him do the impossible for you! He is a loving God and He wants you to be His son or daughter. Choose life! Choose Jesus.
This Thankful Thursday I am very thankful for the victory we win in Jesus. I am thankful for the gift of prayer. I am thankful God hears and answers prayer. I am thankful my children do not have to be told to pray, but they see an opportunity and they take it! God is so good! I am thankful that my children choose to honor God. We do not always know if what we are teaching them sinks in, but it's moments like this that make me smile and I know it is all glory to God. He takes the credit for this!
I hope something I shared today has given you strength for your journey and light for your way. God bless you.
~Bridgett Owens

